"It's Not My Fault!"
Sep 12, 2012
When I was growing up I heard these statements a thousand times..."If you make up your bed hard, when you lay down in it, it will still be hard"..."If you are out in "the streets" acting a fool(not acting like a fool) acting a fool; if you get thrown in jail, don't call me." These words came from my dad and it was his way of saying you must take personal responsibility for your actions. If I didn't learn anything else from Dad, that was enough to shape my perspective about success in life. It has been said that we are the sum total of all our choices. Sure there will always be obstacles, both internal and external, seen and unseen, however, success or failure is really determined by our choices.
I'm panged to see how a large part of our culture has embraced the notion that their lack of success is connected to someone else's action. As a kid growing up in Louisiana, there were plenty of instances to blame someone because of limited opportunity based upon the color of my skin. My parents did not allow that to become an obstacle. They told us if we kept God first in our lives and did our very best at all we pursued, no one could keep us from accomplishing what we set out to achieve. Our success or failure rested on our own shoulders based upon the choices we made and the personal responsibility we took for our actions.
I believe that what primarily ails our country is the lack of acceptance of personal responsibility for our actions. When bad choices are made and negative results ensue, many will cry out, "It's not my fault that I am where I am, someone else should be blamed for my trouble." If we could revert back to that simple concept of accept personal responsibility, any of the problems in our homes, families, cities and nation would be resolved. What examples can you provide that prove this statement?